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Joy and Sorrow: Riding the Carousel

Joy and Sorrow: Riding the Carousel

Ups and Downs This week we'd like to take some time to examine joy and sorrow. These two feelings seem to lie on either end of the emotional spectrum. They go by other names, too: manic depression, bipolar disorder, or the downplayed colloquialism, ups and downs. We...

Transformation: Visions for a Better Future

Transformation: Visions for a Better Future

A Common Drive Have you ever thought, I would like to be a little less crazy? Or, I would like to be a little more tolerant of ignorance. How about, I would like to stop drinking so much. Or, I wish I could make better choices so I could live a life I love instead of...

Rebellion and Defiance

Rebellion and Defiance

A Powerful Tool for Change Rebellion and Defiance are ideas that are very near and dear to many, but not all. Are you a rebel without a cause or a rebel without a clue? Are you rebelling solely for conflict? Rebellion is a societal tool, a tool of great power. A tool...

Empowerment Vs. Victimhood

Empowerment Vs. Victimhood

The Choice Is Ours As children, we learn to obey and behave simply because we are told to do so. This can leave us feeling as if we have no choice. As adults, we have more power in the direction our lives move. While some situations and circumstances beyond our...

Inspiration: Finding Our Reason Why

Inspiration: Finding Our Reason Why

A Welcomed Old Friend Ask yourself, "What is my Why?" Inspiration comes in many forms. Getting inspired by something or someone gets our hearts and minds focused on a single subject. This is great practice for folks with scattered thoughts and lingering ADD. Early in...

Mikka Bouzu: the Three-Day Monk

Mikka Bouzu: the Three-Day Monk

"The Mind Is the Most Capricious of Insects..." Hopefully after reading last week's blog about hard work and making your way in the world, all of you were inspired to arise, take up thy beds, and walk. I figure this is the perfect time to talk about a phenomenon the...

The Choice to Make Your Way

The Choice to Make Your Way

A Common Mistake Gong Fu or Kung Fu (功夫) literally means "energy/hard work, time/patience." It is commonly misunderstood to mean a particular style of martial art, but it actually refers to anything that takes a large amount of time, patience, and energy to...

Inner Truth: Unconcealing Ourselves

Inner Truth: Unconcealing Ourselves

Hiding Nothing There are too many good quotes about truth to share in a timely fashion. However, two of my favorites are: "There are three sides to every story: yours, mine and the truth." – Robert Evans, filmmaker "Three things shine before the world and cannot be...

Future Self: Sow Seeds, Not Garbage

Future Self: Sow Seeds, Not Garbage

Don't Let Your Farmer Become a Garbage Collector There is a person you will never meet in this very present moment. Though you feel their nearness always and you may even catch a whiff here and there of their scent, or even a fleeting glimpse, they and you will never...

Limerence: Love and the Brain

Limerence: Love and the Brain

Joy and Chaos No doubt you've seen, or experienced for yourself, the state of limerence. The chaotic, sometimes even terrifying thoughts and feelings. The often irrational, even crazy behaviors. And most of all, the abject despair when our feelings of attraction are...

Projection: Know Your Inner Experience

Projection: Know Your Inner Experience

Primitive Emotional Defenses One of the ways that people avoid taking responsibility for their role in their own pain is what I call the BPs - blame and projection. --Iyanla Vanzant Projection and projective identification are very common, and very primitive emotional...